this was originally posted at embrace your life. i wanted to share it with my readers here and find out what you have learned about yourself through your blogging journey!
i’ve been blogging for about two years now. i can’t believe it has already been that long. it really feels like just yesterday i hit “publish” for the first time.
while having two years under my belt in no way makes me any sort of blogging expert or guru, i do feel like it gives me a little experience. i’ve had this list of things i have learned about myself since i started blogging in my inspiration journal for a few months now. i’ve been writing things down as i realized hey! this is a part of me that has grown since i started this – better write it down!
i never thought that blogging would contribute so greatly to my personal growth and i really wanted to document some of the things i have learned over the past year or so of blogging, since that is when i really started to take it seriously. and, i wanted to share a couple of them with you! 🙂 because you know, we are friends and all. 😉
finding friends
when chris and i moved to louisiana, and for the first time in my entire life i lived more than 2 miles away from parents, friends, and most of my family, i had never felt so alone and so “de-friended” in my whole life. we have now lived here almost three years and i have made friends with a couple of people here and there but i still don’t feel like i have really made the same sort of relationships as with those i knew from home.
of course, there is a huge lapse in time here – my friends from home i’ve known since i was in diapers, going through all of my school years, bad boyfriends, marriages, new lives and babies with. i had to learn to be realistic and come to terms with the fact that i probably won’t ever have friends like that here because i haven’t had 25 years of getting to know them. and that is okay.
friends forever trinket bowl from say your piece
now. blogging has brought me friendships i never thought i would find. i am much closer to many of the friends i have made online in the last year than the friends i have made in west monroe. i’m still trying to adjust to the fact that when i talk about cassie, kelsey, kasey or kelly (hi – could i meet some people whose names DON’T start with a hard k sound? thanks) i have to explain that i met them through blogging. and of course that is when the weird looks and questions come out.
you made friends with someone online? how is that possible? you barely know them. they could be a total farce and try to kill you. you’re weird.
okay – so some of this is me projecting my feelings on to them because i still think it is a little weird and unnatural. but i’ve realized over the past year that friends come from anywhere. God orchestrates these relationships and chance meetings through millions of people online because there is a reason He wants me to know every person i’ve befriended online.
it might be weird to those that don’t do this. but to me it is starting to be more natural. it also helps that, even though my husband might not know where you live or what your blog’s name is, when i mention certain names he knows they are a friend i have made online. that helps.
timelines
one thing i have always always struggled with is what kind of timeline i operate on. if you give me a task, it is highly likely that i will get it done as soon as humanly possible. if you send me an email i will probably drop everything else and answer it right then. if you tweet me, you should expect a tweet back from me within 30 seconds to two minutes.
i love you more than twitter card from storey shop
i’m a crazy person. i know this. i’ve pretty much learned to accept that i don’t like to leave things hanging, unanswered, or partially done. it literally KILLS me to leave a post in draft mode. physically ills me people. i have a problem. 🙂 i also have a lot less unread emails in my inbox. but that is just how i operate.
i have had to acknowledge that the rest of the world very unlikely operates on this same timeline. just because someone doesn’t immediately respond to me doesn’t mean they don’t care, are mad at me, read it and forgot about it, or just ignored me altogether. these are seriously all things that run through my head when i don’t hear back from someone within a 24-hour period.
i remind myself (repeatedly in some cases) that it is okay if it takes me a day to answer an email, more then twelve seconds to respond to a tweet or a text, more than two weeks to paint a sign or (gasp) if i leave a post in draft until i get all the pictures edited.
it is okay. it is okay. it is okay.
{deep breath}
these are just two of the many things i have on my list but they are the most important two if you ask me. what are some things you have learned about yourself in your blogging journey?
Cassie @ Primitive & Proper says
i know- blogging is utterly amazing in the way it connects people. i can honestly say i have made lifelong friends from it.
where in louisiana are you? we lived in slidell for 4 years- both of my kiddos were born there so i have fond memories!
Kasey March says
Oh I like this post a lot! Very thought provoking!
I learned that I expect my pictures to look like what I see in mags and that it's too high of an expectation!
skye @ neathering our fest says
thanks Kasey! For a long time I struggled with my pictures and how to make them bigger, better, prettier… I'm lucky to have a nice camera now but I agree – my pictures will never be magazine worthy! 🙂
Maury Kilgo says
I think you and I are a lot alike. I drives me crazy to have an unanswered email, a list that's not completely crossed out or a post that should be written but isnt.
I've learned that I have more to offer than I think I do. Before I started my blog, I read them for a while. I kept thinking, i would never have anything interesting enough for people to read regularly. Somehow people keep coming to read it though…
skye @ neathering our fest says
We do sound quite a bit alike!! 🙂 It gives me hives – literally!!
That is an interesting concept – we are all so quick to doubt our abilities and downplay what we have to offer! I am loving your blog! 🙂
Little Stitch says
It IS okay. It is okay to take a break, a breather. It is okay to struggle when you move away from your friends & family.
And it is okay to miss your online friends! (Right?!) Haha. I'm sorry I missed the tribe meeting earlier this week. I sure could have used the pick-me-up. Hope I can work it out for next time. <3
Kate says
Great post Skye 🙂 I can relate to a lot of the things you just said lol! Especially when I try and mention blogging at all {let alone meeting up with you guys online} to my family and I can tell they really don't know how to respond lol. It's just a whole other type of community 🙂 Definitely one I was glad to have discovered since I started blogging! – I had no idea it existed 🙂
skye @ neathering our fest says
Thanks Kate! 🙂 I'm glad to have met all these wonderful women who have changed my life in such great ways! My family is coming around to the whole blogging community thing but they still think it is kind of weird. So you aren't alone! 🙂
Kelly @ View Along the Way says
Love this post! I've committed more time to blogging since I became a stay-at-home mom, and blogging has been my lifeline! It is a way to feel connected, feel adult, feel human, and find friendships when it would otherwise be so tough to connect. Plus I think it's so important to maintain a creative outlet. And I'm glad I met you! 🙂
skye @ neathering our fest says
I love that you use blogging as a way to stay connected! Everyone needs a great creative outlet and I love your blog. You always have me rolling 😉 I'm so excited for June! YAY! 🙂